Abusive behavior when dating

Traumatic bonding can occur between the abuser and victim as the result of ongoing cycles of abuse in which the intermittent reinforcement of reward and punishment creates powerful emotional bonds that are resistant to change and a climate of fear.

Isolation, gaslighting, mind games, lying, disinformation, propaganda, destabilisation, brainwashing and divide and rule are other strategies that are often used.

Next, they set petty rules and exhibit "pathological jealousy".

Absolute control may be sought by any of four types of sadists: explosive, enforcing, tyrannical, or spineless sadists.

The victims are at risk of anxiety, dissociation, depression, shame, low self-esteem and suicidal ideation.

An effective means of ensuring control and power over another is to control their access to money.

Understanding these dynamics are useful to anyone trying to extricate from the controlling behavior of another person, and deal with their own compulsions to do things that are uncomfortable, undesirable, burdensome, or self-sacrificing for others.

There are different levels of demands - demands that are of little consequence, demands that involve important issues or personal integrity, demands that affect major life decisions, and/or demands that are dangerous or illegal.

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