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I’ve had a handful of men not-so-subtlety drop the “Asian ex-girlfriend” card within the first few minutes of introducing themselves.
When you bring this tidbit of information into the conversation, I never quite know how to respond.
I was also born and raised in Canada, so it’s not necessary for you to saying anything to me other than “hi,” “hello,” or “hey.”You also shouldn’t assume my ethnicity by the off chance you’re correct.
As a rule of thumb: if you don’t know, don’t guess. Contrary to what you might think, not all Asian people look the same., Xu explains that micro-aggression sounds a lot like cluelessness, and cluelessness sounds a lot like, “I’m white.
I can be pretty without being pretty and I can have a certain figure without it being considered deviant from my race.While it’s not something I get offended about, it can be irritating when I’m forced to play a round of “Let’s Guess Your Ethnicity! You’re not and I don’t know how to deal with that.” She goes on to clarify that being ignorant doesn’t mean you aren’t a kind person with good intentions; it simply means some of the things you say can be “pretty annoying” when heard by racialized individuals over and over again.In all honesty, it’s emotionally draining having to go, “Well actually, what you said to me offensive…” and challenge your deep-rooted beliefs about who you think I am.“Yellow fever is when the only prerequisite for me to become your potential partner is the colour of my skin. I once was told by a white man that as an Asian woman living in North America, I had no reason to ever complain about feeling oppressed because I had it “easier than most people.” As he oh-so eloquently explained “Everyone loves Asian women.”Societal oppression is not a subjective opinion based on whether or not you have a crush on on me.Brushing off my lived-experiences by saying, “Well, you’re a pretty Asian girl, you’ll get by just fine,” is dismissive and cheap.