Dating with erectile dysfunction
I’m not comfortable diagnosing erection problems as “erectile dysfunction.” I hate labeling, and the “dys” implies failure and the overwhelming shame that goes along with it.
I never click on the links that come with the numerous ads in my spam folder offering “your instant cure for impotence” (why are they sending these to ME? Viagra can make a huge difference but masks the issues that cause the tissues to stay soft.
When a woman needs her partner’s erection to validate that she’s desirable, a short term problem can quickly become long term.
The danger is not the lack of an erection, but what each of you makes of it.
I thought he was trying to get rid of me without revealing what the problem was.
Now I realize that what was “broken” was probably his boy parts.
In this kind of situation I usually sit down with both people separately as well as seeing them together. When you eliminate one leg the stool often topples.
His fiancée had been blaming herself, “He obviously doesn’t find me attractive any more. Once I helped her to realize that his erection problems had nothing to do with her, it turned out that she wasn’t nearly as attached to a hard penis as he had imagined.